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La bote outils Arduino - 2e d - 120 techniques pour russir vos projets yThis is the first book that I read read that deals with the theme as mentioned in the title The title speaks for the book the narrative style is really interesting The topic which is important in the era where the globalisation impact of IT and the social cultural aspects that are changing with values this book to me important to know the path of Indian society I don t know how mediocrity becomes bestsellerFirst of all there are no new insights Whatever is etched in public memory is repeated Exception is being shown as mainstream eg Nirbhaya Rape Erotic sculpture on temples Whatever is known by a common man is described in unnecessary details eg Matrimonial sites arranged marriage and so on She identifies the contradictions and schizophrenia in Indian psyche about sexuality but doesn t move beyond that Added to it her condescending attitude toward the subject she is broaching makes it bad read Unnecessary judgemental descriptions about attire and mindset of Indians she is interviewing is there The topic is so much relevant and important that she could have made it a great endeavour If only she probed the Indian psyche it s confusions and the way it reconciles modernity and traditional Instead she indulges in surface level scratching of known to everyone factual detailsHowever there are sporadic flashes of insights in some of the research work she cites interviews and references to mythology As aoung Indian woman I found this to be one of the most important books I ve read in recent times It may not be the best written book I ve come across It s not critically acclaimed or award winning And now it has no provocative pictures or titillating content But I must reiterate It is one of the most IMPORTANT books I have readI say this because chapter by painstaking chapter Ira Trivedi addresses topics that unfortunately we don t discuss as openly as we should in India Topics like sexuality promiscuity sex education arranged marriage love marriage dating and how our views on all of the above and are rapidly changing from one generation to the next It s a conversation starter in a country that thus far has insisted on keeping mum on these crucial topics topics that affect millions of Indians every single dayTrivedi builds her book on three key axes research and statistics interviews with experts or specialists in particular fields and her own personal experiences I started the book skeptical that hers would be a primarily urbane account of the subject and to some degree perhaps it is but her discussions turned out to be comprehensive and wide ranging than I expected I was continually impressed with the lengths she went to to tell this story from approaching massage providers as a fake customer to get interviews with the girls providing the service to visiting dance bars in old Delhi to fraternizing with college students to learn about their sexual preferences there s little she didn t take on I also thought she did a great job of highlighting the inherent duality and hypocrisy that our society carries around all matters sexual On the one hand it s in our history and religion on the other it s taboo and not to be discussed even among parents and their childrenWhat was most impressive though was how much ground Ira was able to cover Her book covers light hearted and serious matters alike ranging from a comical experience of trying to buy sex toys in Connaught Place to disturbing accounts of crits pour nuire : Littrature enfantine et subversion young couples fleeing for their lives because they married outside their communities In its pages we re introduced to a variety of characters from the poster boy for gay rights in Mumbai to high society matchmakers in Delhi to a live in couple who just moved in togetherIf there s one criticism I have of this book it s that occasionally it s a little too long and detailed and the narrative can get dull surprising given the raciness of some of the topics discussed That said the biggest accomplishment for me is that Ira Trivedi has been able to start a conversation forcing us as readers to consider the inherent hypocrisy in our approach to sex and marriage as Indians and urging us to be transparent and honest with ourselves moving forward It was a great read and I d strongly recommend it to any Indian who s interested in being better informed about our own country Prior to reading this book I bumped into an article on ancient marriage According to Veda marriage is called as a union between masculine and feminine entity with firm commitment to Dharma Artha Kama and Moksha One of the central pillar of Indian society was marriage In the last century higher percentage of people settled for a partner that their families have arranged for them However the relationship between man and woman is changing The change has been drastic in last tenears than they were in three Thousand Years Arranged Marriage May Seem To Be Very Retrograde years Arranged marriage may seem to be very retrograde now The beliefs of previous generations are no longer considered sacrilegious Young generation in particular treat parent s way of life as antiuated and extremely uixotic The world has become small and alluring too Insatiable erotomania means that sex is beginning to escape from underneath the sheets and in to the living room I must say sex is finally out of the closet and on to the streets The order of love sex and marriage have undergone radical changes Traditionally it was marriage sex and then love if the couples are lucky Now the order is love sex and may be marriage Increasing number of urban Indians are beginning to believe that love and sex are all that matters in a relationship New paradigms of sex and relationship open and live in are Being Tested And Explored The Change In Relationship Has Probably tested and explored The change in relationship has probably to fulfilling relationships than those in the past but it has also contributed to myriad crisis in society Great Indian middle class is trying to fit into globalized world Through this book we hear tales narratives conversations and analysis of how love sex and marriages are working in modern urban IndiaStephanie Coontz is a historian and marriage expert She had studied marriage pattern in Europe and North America In her well known book Marriage a History How love conuered marriage she concludes that market driven economy led to erosion of traditional social system in the eighteenth century Young people began accepting the idea that love should be the primary criteria for marriage Still marriage continued to be of paramount importance By 1970 s love and sex revolution dislodged marriage from its central position in society and it was no longer *considered a reuired step for a fulfilling life Coontz s theory can be applied to Indian scenario as well Though marriage * a reuired step for a fulfilling life Coontz s theory can be applied to Indian scenario as well Though marriage to play an important role the tradition of arranged marriage is breaking down Increasing number of people are choosing to marry for love rather than for religious caste family or economic reasons Young educated men and women from conservative and traditional family moves to other cities in order to make their career The office atmosphere especially in IT sector is such that romance blooms These oung people experience a lot of freedom Sometimes parents would acuiesce and go. India in Love Marriage and Sexuality in the 21st Century is a ground breaking look at the sexual revolution that is beginning to sweep through urban India Bestselling author Ira Trivedi travelled from Shillong in the northeast to Chennai in the south Konark in the east to Mumbai in the west and over a dozen other cities and towns in order to gain unprecedented insights into how the nation has sex gets married and falls in and out of love in the 21st centuryThe book explores the sexual proclivities and mating habits of oung Indians on college campuses and in offices; examines the changing face of Indian pornography and prostitution especially the world of high class hookers; probes the oppression the LGBT community faces in a nation India in Love

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With their children s interest After marriage they are suddenly confronted with problems that come along with romance and relationship They cannot count on their parents for emotional support and end up hitting a rough patch Sometimes Governance and Politics in Africa young couple s decision affront their obdurate parents and society Such decisions can cause malaise and takes a life threatening turn If love and marriage is across caste and community thenoung couples are killed too To protect such couples from the wrath of their families an organization named Loved Commandos have been doing noticeable work but acrimonious and ugly atmosphere refuse to goWhen we discuss about marriage can subject of divorce be far behind The answer is No Let us see the current statistics of divorce rates legal definition and ancient text teachings In ancient times there are so few instances of divorce that there was no defined word for divorce Finally when it happened it occurred under extraordinary circumstances If the spouse is impotent or have decided to renounce the world Ancient text like Naradasmriti permit a woman to remarry only under mentioned two conditions In 70 s divorce rate barely touch 1 per cent According to 2001 census figure divorce rate is high as 7% Recent national level figures are not available as divorce proceedings are dealt with at the state level Had it been available it seems like than 7% Traditionally two families have come closer to avoid divorce The couples tried harder to adjust Presently due to financial independence and increase in confidence women are no longer always ready to adjust This is irrespective of whether a woman is distressed or not According to Hindu Marriage Act divorce in Hindu marriages are possible only when it fall under adultery cruelty renunciation of the world or change in relation In an amendment mutual consent between couples without the need to present faults was also included in the ambit of the marriage act Changes in law too have speeded up divorce proceedingsIn movies especially of softcore or X rated genre outside the relationship casual flings and sexuality are common even when partners are in so called committed relationship It is just a movie which can show any ueer stuff The bizarre contents cannot be a reality If Literatuur van de Moderne Tijd - Nederlandse en Vlaamse letterkunde in de 19e en 20e eeuw you agree thenou need a reality check We have been discussing about marriage If we explore modern love in India then we find that two person can be in a relationship live and stay together without getting married The Supreme Court has legalized it and if consenting adults take such a decision then it is not considered a crime Such news no longer astonish anybody What can be considered as brazen is the fact that each partner explores his or her sexuality individually while maintaining one s marriage Both the partners indulged in adultery in full cognizance and consent of each other They keep their marriage intact for parents and society s sake Both follows the track of traditional marriage but suddenly they drift to enter into an undefined open marriage They live a promiscuous life They are not even resentful The thrill of illicit romance is too alluring for them The third most radical and hair raising idea is swinger s club It is noticed in upper strata of the society The couple not only indulge themselves in sexuality with each other but with other people as well provided the couples are members of the club Such clubs mushroomed in western world five decades ago and now it sees steady growth in India It is still in embryonic stageThe trade of accepting money in favor of sex also existed back in 300 CE The temple sex workers formed an important part of religious and cultural life in India They were well treated and respected They also held a high social status in the society Ancient texts such as Arthashatra Buddhacharitra and Kamasutra narrates widely accepted positions that courtesans held in India arthashastra lays down the functions of the prostitutes lays down the functions of the prostitutes their active service and post retirement Vatsyayana devoted an entire section to ganikas in Kamasutra He #States That It Is The Duty Of #that it is the duty of to indulge the ganika who were indispensable part in public function of the town and aristocracy During the Mughal reign the practices from Persia was seamlessly integrated into the practices of the ganikas Rich and powerful nobles sponsored the courtesans known as tawaifs They were connoisseurs of song and dance They specialized in vocal forms such as ghazal and thumri and dance forms like Kathak They were prerogatives of rich and powerful Common people could not even touch them The downfall of ancient tradition of courtesan began during Indian Revolt of 1857 when it was discovered that many British soldiers were infected with venereal disease The skillset involving music is no longer associated with women who provides sexual services in return of money You call these women prostitutes The law of the land is peculiar The trade is neither abolished nor legalized Previously most girls came from lower strata of the society They were either pushed into the trade forcefully or were driven by poverty Now the scenario is changing The low *End Category Is Still *category is still majority but around 40% are coming from upper classes who operates as call girls bar girls and high class prostitutes Indian women also face a competition from foreign women mostly coming from erstwhile Soviet Union and other East European countries These girls look good dress well flirt expertly and titillate professionally The rich and powerful are now avoiding low end prostitutes and preferring foreign or English speaking women The arena too is changing It is shifting to farmhouse and five star hotel The clients for these low end prostitutes are coolie rickshaw pullers and oung boys who are barely into their teens That does not mean their numbers are decreasing but one class of sexual worker is increasing at astronomical speed to keep up with the need of ever increasing sexual demands of menThere have been sea changes in taste of Indians in the last decade Whatever be the state of the economy people are always getting married The marriage business is never down Apart from traditional ghataks online marriage portals are connecting prospective bride and grooms like never before For the moneyed people marriage event was always a gala event and now there are multiple adds on Friends and family members dance to hip swinging seuence Choreographers train them few days in advance The wedding d cor resembles Bollywood film set As per the direction of photographers the new couple pose like Bollywood actors The videographers makes the wedding video look like a mini Bollywood film with all those songs and dances Bollywood celebrities make nice profit by appearing in these events for few minutes Bollywood has invaded every aspect of Indian weddingIn the last few decades Indian women have become astonishingly bold in their taste and to fulfill it they go that extra mile The sale of sex toys are illegal in the country However in the black market the vibrators and dildos are much in demand The surprises do not stop here The products associated with other sexually active behavior are becoming popula. Here the Supreme Court shocked wide sections of society with its ruling on Article 377 that re criminalized homosexuality; and delves into history economics and sociology to try and understand how the nation that gave the world the Kamasutra could have become a closed repressed society with a shockingly high incidence of rape and violence against women the dark underside to the greater sexual freedom that men and women in our cities have begun to enjoy todayTrivedi goes deep into one of the most enduring institutions of Indian society marriage and investigates how it is faring in modern times She interviews marriage brokers astrologers lawyers relationship counsellors ‘love commandos’ parents and nervous oung brides and grooms am. R as well Vaginal beautification which not only involve removal of hair but also decorating vagina with diamond crystal and other precious stones have takers and getting popular Laser hair removal parlours have become as common as beauty parlours Women are spending a good amount of money on what they wear on bed The organized lingerie market has trebled in the last ten Guide to Glorantha Volume 1 years When iconic brand Wonderbra was launched all it s prelaunch stock on display was sold out What was the unit sold It was one lac The other online lingerie stores like Pretty Secrets and Zivame are gaining ground as well popularity in IndiaThe book brilliantly present the changing attitude towards love sex and marriage in full As part of her research Ira Trivedi had travelled extensively in all metros and dozen other cities to get an impression of the changes that are taking place What are the stimulus for these changes The changes are directly proportional to technological economic political and legislative changes over the past decade that have provided people with plethora of choices freedom and experiences Technology in particular has been a game changer This have broadened people s desire and aspirations as well as teased their imaginations The present generation is exposed to romantic and sexualized culture Before penning this book the author had planned to see trends collect statistic and then reached a conclusion Every time she tried to freeze a theory something would pop up and dislodge it As per Newton s third law every action has eual and opposite reaction Likewise during her research she found that for every truth there was an eual and opposite untruth The book is a revelation This was an interesting and readable account Apart from being an author she is also aoga expert You can watch her videos in YouTube I am smitten by her good looks and bitten by her writing bug I am looking forward to her other books A good attempt at talking about some very vital aspects concerning our so called society And good amount of research done goo with peppy anecdotes Yet this book could have been much shorter A good hundred pages at least Except for a short section on the matrilinear social structure of the Khasis in Meghalaya I didn t find anything novel or uniue in Trivedi s work With a brief probably an idea sold to her by Aleph of having to cover the sexual revolution taking place in modern India Trivedi covers all the usual topics that such a daunting subject calls for Temple erotica check violence against women check Section 377 check sexologists check live in in India check arranged marriages check theme based weddings check prostitution check open marriage check swinger clubs check and the list goes on After a while the book became tedious Candid discussions with a cross section of our friends will reveal about the changing social s of our country than this book does A brilliant book very well researched and provides deep insights into not just marriage and sex but also the cultural changes India is going through The facts and figures mentioned in the book am sure would take anyone by surprise Excellent Read Trivedi s book is a painstaking and detailed documentation consisting of than 500 interviews to understand changing sexual ideas of India Her book starts off with some wonderful explanation of the sexual symbolism of Ram and Sita and Radha and Krishna Her account of the Kamakhya Devi Temple in Guwahait that is shaped like a vagina is vivid and fascinating Ira writes best when she is providing a mythological and historical reference to a particular story in the book But sadly that is where the charm of the book also ends Ira meanders off into her interviews which are entertaining to read but do not offer any new insight or unknown about love and sex are being perceived in modern day India These stories abound by the dozen in newspapers and on television and it makes for forced reading in her bookIra has clearly put in remarkable research in writing this book with characters that we recognize and empathize with She peppers her book generously with personal anecdotes some statistics and interviews with well known writers and psychologists Sometimes she also comes across as judgmental providing descriptions of skin color and beauty which seemed highly unnecessary For Someone Who Wrote The someone who wrote The of my Skin it was perplexing why she presented this detail for all women that she interviewed for her book While her research effort is evident the product does not match up neither in prose Or Content Ira S content Ira s begins with a high note and then keeps jarring off key through the entire book Another book that started out as promising but broke it1 What a wonderful read A book right after my own heart exploring the changing face of love and sexuality in India and doing it with so much rigor so much introspection and so much heartDuring the course of reading this book I learnt and un learnt alot like how relatively open a society we were before the British brought in their Victorian prudence about how involved we are in sex from 50% of urban Indian men having visited prostitutes to 25% having had extramarital relations these kind of stats from a society so invested in wanting to show a so called moral face to the world was surprising It was a shock to know that invisible to a relatively strait laced DINK couple like us there exists an entire world from clubs dating portals and support groups for homosexual people support groups and agents to help star crossed Harry Potter en de Vuurbeker (De Harry Potter-serie) young lovers who are facing being murdered by their families to various hues tones of shaadi portals meant for a gamut of people from ones who are overweight to those who are divorcees I learnt that India s dichotomy is mirrored in the judgments passed by its highest court such as the wide chasm between the ruling that deems unnatural sex acts as illegal to the one that legitimizes children born of live in relationships from the one that still doesn t recognize marital rape to the one that recognizes the urgent need to make divorce proceedings as uick and speedy as possible given the astronomical rise in such cases India is a crazy country And our generation plus or minus one is caught in this strange no man s land where on the one hand there are deeply entrenched familial expectations and on the other a mushrooming acceptance of the most unorthodox lifestyles and a growing recognition of the individual What the shape of our culture is going to be once the dust settles is a uestion worth pondering uponIra Trivedi does a fantastic job of bringing in alot of perspective and research across a wide range of subjects This was one of the most interesting non fiction I have ever read Very interesting topic but such obnoxious writing I mean this is just a sample of how the author describes the people she interviews for the book dark skinned girl with a plain chapati like face speaks English with a thick accent that was hard to understand which planet didou land from Ira Trivedi We are all dark skinned in this continent and we all speak English with an accent as does well the rest of the world So achingly offensive couldn t read beyond a point. Ongst others to present a nuanced picture of the state of marriage in the country She discovers that while arranged marriage is still the preferred form of finding a partner for the majority of urban Indians love marriages are increasing at a tremendous rate Also on the rise are divorces extra marital affairs open marriages live in relationships and the like Supporting her eye opening reportage with hundreds of interviews detailed research authoritative published surveys and discussions with experts on various aspects of sexuality and marriage Trivedi has written a book that is often startling sometimes controversial but is always entertaining and original India in Love will change the way urban Indians view themselves and one another. .